DEAR DEIDRE: I’M being stalked by a young woman I had drunken sex with after celebrating my football club’s win.
Whenever I go out now, she’s always lingering and hanging about – it’s making me uncomfortable.
I’m a guy of 28 and she’s around 19 years old. I play football for a local team and we played our arch enemies in a game which we weren’t expecting to win.
They had two players sent off with red cards and we went on to win two nil.
We were ecstatic. We had lots of supporters and someone generous put a load of money behind the bar to celebrate.
I got chatting to this lovely girl who I assumed was attached to somebody on my team but she said she was alone.
She was very flirty and we ended up going “outside for some air”, then started kissing and this led to us having a quickie behind the clubhouse.
I bumped into her again a week later and she invited me back to her house, where she lived with her parents but they were on a cruise.
We went up to her bed. She had an amazing body and I had the best sex but personality-wise, she’s just not my type.
I haven’t had the heart to tell her and I thought it would fizzle out but now she’s started turning up at the club on match days and acts like she’s my girlfriend.
She’s constantly phoning or texting me and she gets cross when I don’t reply quickly enough.
She was on the platform when I was catching my train home last week and now she’s been waiting outside my workplace.
It’s been a couple of months and I can’t shake her off.
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DEIDRE SAYS: You feel she’s being difficult but you haven’t been clear about where you stand.
She’s much younger than you and will have a lot less life experience. There’s no honour in taking advantage of someone so keen to impress.
And it’s often risky to have sex with somebody you hardly know because they can get the wrong impression. You should have nipped this in the bud a long time ago.
You risk hurting her feelings but when she next makes contact, be honest. You don’t have to make it personal. Tell her it’s been fun but you’re not ready to have a relationship.
My support pack called Standing Up For Yourself teaches you assertiveness skills to tell her firmly but kindly that it’s over.
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