DEAR DEIDRE: IS great sex a valid reason not to dump my gamer boyfriend?
We’re both 25. We’ve been together for five years and our sex life is amazing.
You’d think we’d be bored with each other by now, but he only has to touch me and I want him.
Outside the bedroom, however, I just don’t seem to matter to him.
He’s always loved gaming but he got into Dungeons And Dragons over lockdown and now he’s obsessed.
If I don’t nag him to come to bed, he’d play online every night until 3am, or spend hours painting D&D figures.
I tried to indulge his fantasy on his birthday by dressing up as a sexy half-elf.
Instead of being turned on, he looked at me like I had gone mad.
Since then, I’ve left him to it but I’m feeling disconnected.
If the sex wasn’t so incredible, I’d have left years ago. But now I’m thinking about settling down and I don’t know if a good sex life is enough to sustain us forever. Should I continue?
DEIDRE SAYS: Many people become trapped in unsatisfying relationships just because the sex is so good.
But even though sex is important to a relationship, it can’t replace companionship, communication or love.
If you’re missing those things, you’re right to question things now, before you’re even more committed.
Can you find a moment when you are calm and quiet and let him know that you feel things aren’t right between you?
Explain that you’d like to spend more quality time together outside the bedroom, and that you miss him when he shuts himself away.
You can also ask if there’s anything he’d like to change about the relationship. He might have been bottling up some negative feelings behind his computer.
My support pack, How To Look After Your Relationship, explains how to consider each other’s feelings, and how to develop a stronger bond of trust. Read this together.
Give yourself a time limit for him to make some positive changes – a month or so. If things don’t change, you may have to accept he’s not the right partner for you.
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I’M A Celebrity Get Me Out of Here! winner Danny Jones has delighted McFly fans with a sweet pre-Christmas reunion with his bandmates.
Weeks after being crowned King of The Jungle, the boys surprised Danny as they waited for him in the restaurant.
As he walks down the stairs, the boys conceal their faces behind masks of his face, but a beaming Danny embraced them with open arms.
It made a perfect pre-Christmas get-together after Danny’s adventures in Australia.
Strictly Come Dancing winner Harry Judd welcomed him, along with Tom Fletcher and Dougie Poynter.
The video was posted on McFly‘s official Instagram page so fans could replay the scene.
Danny posted: “Great to see the boys.”
A fan raved: “Love this! Reunited at last.”
Another added: “I love their brotherhood so much.”
A third added: “It must feel amazing to have such a supportive family in your bandmates.”
A fourth commented: “Now that’s what you call a McFly welcome home party.”
Previously, Dougie made a call to Danny, 38, shortly after his win and tells him: “Dude, you did amazing, I was so proud.”
Overwhelmed by speaking with Dougie, an emotional Danny said: “I love you so much man.”
Fellow I’m a Celeb winner Dougie asked: “Are you still crying?”
And Danny responded: “I’ve been a mess all day, I can’t quite take it all in.”
McFly had seven UK number-one singles and started their own record label.
Their songs include Its All About You, Five Colours in Her Hair and Obviously.
The band teamed up with Busted and created McBusted – a move that led to their demise.
They split in 2016 amid a series of infighting incidents that caused cracks in the boyband.
However, they have set aside their differences and plan to go on tour in 2025.
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Ukrainian superstar Usyk declared himself as boxing royalty during their first bout by pulling off a split-decision win over the Gypsy King to become the first heavyweight undisputed champion this century.
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THERE’S less than a week to go until Christmas and Marshalls is the latest retailer to announce it’s closing for 24 hours.
All of its 1,200 stores will shut as part of the festive retail blackout – and you won’t be able to head to Macy’s for last-minute gifts either.
The department stores are just two of many retailers closing for the holiday, along with Costco, Target, Walmart and Dollar Tree.
It gives hard-working employees an opportunity to relax with their families and enjoy the festivities with everybody else.
For anybody still with shopping to do however it could bring problems.
The answer is to make sure all gifts are bought and wrapped by Christmas Eve, and while this is easier said than done, there is some leeway for last-minute purchases.
Most Marshalls locations are open from 7am until 10pm; in some states they’re open until 11pm and that’s seven days a week, giving consumers up to 15-plus hours each day to finish their festive shopping.
Early closure on Christmas Eve is likely – last year they closed around 6pm – so checking with your local store before setting out could save you a wasted trip.
Marshalls isn’t the only retailer closing for Christmas Day.
Many others are shutting their doors to celebrate the holidays.
They include Kohl’s, Target, Big Lots, JCPenney, Walmart and Costco, which are all closing for 24 hours to give employees much-needed time off.
Grocery stores also closing on the big day include Aldi, Trader Joe’s, Wegman’s, Winn-Dixie and Sam’s Club.
All is not lost if you suddenly find yourself missing a vital dinner ingredient or a guest turns up unexpectedly and you’re short of a gift.
There are some stores open on Christmas Day, though they may be working to shorter hours.
Giant, 7-Eleven, Walgreens, Circle K and Bravo Supermarkets will all be open to shoppers, as will selected Safeway locations.
For those intending to eat out, rather than spend the day cooking at home, then restaurants open for festive dining include Smith & Wollensky, Hooters, Benihana and Denny’s.
They can also pick up their favorite burgers at McDonald’s, pizza at Domino’s and a restorative coffee (after all that frantic present buying) at Starbucks, as they’re also not closing for Christmas.
Again, make sure to check local opening times.
For consumers short on inspiration for gifts and stocking stuffers, Dollar Tree has great ideas for just £1.25 each.
They include body creams, beauty accessories, kids’ Christmas coloring books and festive socks.
Meanwhile, shoppers at Trader Joe’s are raving about the return of a favorite snack this Christmas.
The Hot Cocoa Polar Bear is filled with marshmallows and chocolate drops – and it makes a great gift for anyone with a sweet tooth.
