This as-told-to essay is based on a conversation with Karla Cobreiro, a 33-year-old vice president at global PR firm Quinn who purchased a home on her own in 2022.
The National Association of Realtors found that from July 2023 to June 2024, single female buyers made up 20% of all homebuyers, outpacing single male buyers, who made up only 8%.
The interview has been edited for length and clarity.
I’m originally from Cuba. My parents moved to the US when I was four, and I grew up in Miami.
I left at 18 for college, then moved back home after graduation to save money for my future. I’m grateful for that time, and I know many would love the chance to do the same.
Still, I didn’t want to live with my parents forever.
Living at home meant sacrificing some privacy. There was commentary about what I was doing, why I was doing it, and how. It wasn’t ill-intended, but it could feel like a lot at times.
By my 30s, the decision to move out really came to a head. I asked myself: “Does it make sense to keep living at home to save money, or should I take the leap and buy my own place?”
In the end, I decided to buy a home. I’d never truly lived alone, and I wanted my own space and control over my future. Most importantly, I was ready to start a new chapter.
I didn’t have a partner then, but I didn’t think that should stop me. So I went for it.
I was financially prepared to buy a home alone
For many immigrants, homeownership is a big part of the American dream. It was never a question of whether I would own a home, but when.
Knowing I’d be doing it all on my own, I approached homeownership with a methodical mindset.
I didn’t want to be house-poor or struggle financially. I waited for the right moment — when I had a higher-paying job, had saved up a large down payment, and had built a solid emergency fund.
I lived with my parents for almost 10 years after college to save and set myself up for the expenses of homeownership: a down payment, mortgage, HOA fees, utilities, and insurance.
In November 2022, at 31, I bought a 900-square-foot condo in Downtown Doral, a suburb of Miami, for about $400,000.
Sometimes, I wish I hadn’t overthought it or waited so long.
House hunting was a challenging experience
My homebuying journey started during the COVID-19 pandemic, when home prices and mortgage rates were much higher than before. By 2022, the South Florida real-estate market was incredibly hot.
Although I was financially ready, it was a tough time to be a buyer.
I found myself in bidding wars for homes, often walking away because properties were selling for $30,000 or more over the asking price, especially with so many cash offers.
I cried more about real estate than anything else. My twin sister, a real-estate attorney, helped me navigate the process. I would call her, frustrated, asking, “What’s going on? This is insane! I didn’t realize buying a house would be this hard.”
I felt I had done everything right: I graduated from college, got a job, earned a master’s degree, paid off my student loans and car, and saved 25% for a down payment. I had an 800 credit score and liquid assets — all on my own, without help from my parents.
I had checked the boxes and followed the appropriate steps in life. But despite all of that, I was met with rejection after rejection from sellers.
For a while, I couldn’t see the light at the end of the tunnel and thought I would be stuck in my parents’ house forever. But after a year of searching, my offer was finally accepted on the third home I bid on.
My condo is an investment in my future
I live in a one-bedroom, one-bathroom condo with a den, and my HOA fees are about $1,000 a month.
I have a 30-year mortgage with an interest rate of around 5%, and my mortgage payment is about $2,500.
The unit is smaller than if I were a DINK — someone in a dual-income household with no kids — but I think it’s the perfect size for me.
The condo has a work-from-home space and enough room to entertain, plus a stunning, unobstructed sunset view.
I renovated everything except the floors, so I now have a brand-new bathroom and kitchen. My dad, who works in construction, helped with the renovations (and is always on speed dial for anything I can’t handle myself).
I’m not sure how long I’ll stay here, but I hope it’s for a while. Maybe one day, I’ll find a partner, and we’ll buy a home together, and turn this place into an investment property.
I specifically wanted to live in a condo because didn’t want to deal with yard work and, as a single woman, I felt it would be safer.
My building has concierge services, security, and a gated garage. The ground floor also has shops, cafés, gyms, and other stores.
When I lived with my parents, I was in a very suburban, family-oriented area where I had to drive everywhere — even just to get to the supermarket. There were no cafés or anything nearby. It wasn’t the lifestyle I wanted.
Now, my place is very central, with easy highway access to anywhere I need to go in about 10 minutes. The neighborhood has a downtown vibe, is walkable, and offers plenty to do.
Buying a home alone was the right decision
Owning a home as a single woman is like a roller coaster — there are ups and downs.
Though I live comfortably, If I get laid off, break a leg, or face an emergency, I’m on my own. I always joke to my friends, “It’s just me and this mortgage.”
Still, I’m glad I didn’t wait until I was in a relationship or married to buy a home. Owning a home with someone you’re not committed to can get tricky, especially if you break up. There’s no prenup and if you disagree about selling, that can get messy.
I enjoy owning alone because I can selfishly make decisions without having to compromise. I get to decorate my home however I like —and have the entire closet to myself.
Looking back, it was the right time for my parents and me to branch off and live our lives — me as a single woman in my 30s, and my parents as empty nesters.
We all have different paces and lifestyles now, but occasionally, I do miss living with them. It was nice hanging out, having my laundry done, or enjoying one of their home-cooked meals.
I love them to pieces, and I’m truly grateful for their support and encouragement.
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