DEAR DEIDRE: MY husband lied about paying off thousands of pounds of debt caused by his gambling addiction.
I am 49 and my husband is 50.
We have been together for almost 25 years.
The debt has accumulated on his credit card.
He swore blind he had the debt under control but I discovered this was a total lie.
We had a huge row and in the end I paid off his debts.
Now I wish I hadn’t because I never got so much as a thank you.
This has made me feel used and resentful. I am now seeing a different side to him – a nasty side.
My husband can be sulky and dejected.
All he does these days is watch television and ignore me.
I know he is taking money out of our joint account.
He won’t tell me what he has been spending it on when I confront him.
He just said it was none of my business.
I can’t confide in anyone, I am so fed up.
He is in denial about his addiction – and the difficulty you face is convincing him.
MORE FROM DEAR DEIDRE
DEIDRE SAYS: What is certain is that you cannot continue like this. It is dragging you down.
He may have become addicted to adrenalin surges, but he is digging you into deep debt.
If he refuses to accept he has a problem and doesn’t change, you are going to have to look after your own interests.
Talk to gamanon.org.uk who help the families and friends of gamblers.
My support pack, Gambling In The Family?, explains more.
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